Men's Fraternity Session 6

This week was facing the father wound. We started with the eight proactive remedies for the Absetn Father Wound.
Make sure your son hears:

1. I Love You(Affection)
2. I'm Proud of You(Admiration)
3. You're Good(Affirmation or tell him his strengths)

Make sure he has:

1. A manhood vision and a manhood ceremony that seals it.(this is dicussed more in detail in a later session)
2. A code of conduct that you live by
3. A transcendent cause(something to live for other than himself)
   

If this sounds remotely right to you the speak wrote a book about this stuff called Raising a Modern-day Knight by Robert Lewis.

One thing that is important to remember is that it's never to late to close the gap with your son now matter how old. All sons want the hear the same things from there father and they are me
ntioned above. And to the sons reading this Forgiveness is a choice not a feeling, so if dad is trying so should you.
Most dads didn't try yo make there sons life miserable.

If you are a son wounded by dad choose to touch this wound responsibly, by choosing to forgive your dad and by choosing to beleive in God's Justice. if you think your dad was evil check out Romans 12:19.  Another step is to courageously seek reconsiliation with your father. There may be seperation between you and your dad that springs from dad'd relational shortcomings, but don't let that stop you. there may be seperation between you and your dad that spring from past conflict and you need to clean it up. Lastly if you are a son woundedby dad:

• risk asking for your father's love
• risk asking for your father's blessing
• reclaim the relationship you missed by vecoming a good dad to your children.

This session was the most powerful for me. The speaker Robert Lewis read a letter that a father had written to his son after the son took the risk in asking his dad the hard questions about there relationship. It was very touching. I think everyone should at least watch this video to see the relevance and importance this is. Go to Mens Fraterinty- Facing the Father Wound.