Men's Fraternity Session 5

Remembering Dad

This week was all about Remembering dad. we started of by showing us some figures: In 1960 The percentage of children living with biological Father was 82.5%, then in 1970 77.6%, in 1980 67.8% and in 1990 61.7%. I find these numbers disturbing and these numbers don't include all the absent fathers. I think Proverbs 17:6 says it best: The glory of sons is there fathers.  I have two boys that are three and two and i have already noticed how much they want to be around me and be like me.

The Absent
 father wound was defined as an ongoing emotional, social deficit ordinarily met in a healthy relationship with dad that must now be overcome by other means. There are four results of the absent father:

1. Anger and
   
   Pain
2. Extreme Behavior and addictions or obsessions(Behavior is acting out and addictions is suppressed pain)
3. An inner sense of lostness or incompleteness
4. Homosexuality

Every son wants and needs these things from his father:

• Quality Time Together
• Life Skills(adequacy)
• Direction with Solid "why" answers
• Convictions through Modeling(Integrity)
• Dad's Heart( I love you, you are good at _______, and I am proud of you)

In the next session we will face the father wound.

The more we get into these sessions the more relevant it seems to be to everyone. Most everyone in my discussion groups has the father wound and some have good dads but there was something missing and they didn't realize how it affected them. I would recommend these sessions to every man out there.